Wednesday, February 27, 2013

To The Haters

Today I learned there are folks in Faro who are very unimpressed with my donation button for my reconstructive surgery here on my blog.


So haters, did you know I was asked by over a dozen people to install it?  That I have friends who believe I am worth their donation?  That people are clicking it and donating!  There is now over $1300 going towards my surgery.

This should be a non-issue.  If you don't like it (or me for that matter), don't donate.  Easy peasy.  Move on.  Talk about something positive.  Go do something nice for someone else today instead of sitting around being lazy.

Thank you to my friends who have donated, done acts of kindness, or sent me encouraging messages.  You are the folks who are worth my time and thoughts, not the crankpots bitching while they drink their coffee.


Mme. Rogers said...

Kara, to be honest, had you solicited my donation for the surgery, I'm not sure I would have donated. But I know that you're not the type of person who would have done that. I am very aware that it's some of your friends (not me) who insisted that you should set something up because they were eager to help you out considering everything you've done so far. I was sitting back and waiting to see if you were going to do it, and when you did, I was very happy to give you a little something to help you along. After all, you've been overly generous with me (thank you) as well as with people in Faro. You're always baking goods for others, inviting people over, etc, and never with the expectation of something in return. It's called karma that people are so willing to help you out.
I agree with you: if people disagree with your donation button, they don't have to click it. It's their choice, and there are much more important and interesting things to talk about.
My husband always quotes Eleanor Roosevelt who said, "Poor minds talk about people. Average minds talk about events. Great minds talk about ideas."

Sarah L said...

I wondered if you would get some negative feedback. There are always Debbie Downers who will try to bring them down with you.

I think of it like this: If I were in your position, I feel confident you would be among the first to ask, "How can I help?" So, others did that for you. They wanted to help. Those who don't want to help shouldn't, but there is no reason for them to try to bring you down. They should go out there and do something good for a cause they deem worthy, whatever that may be.

Keep your head held high, friend!

jen said...

Frankly I'm annoyed. Because not only are these people talking bad about you, they are talking down about me and every single person who wanted you to put up that button. Like it's somehow their decision what I do with my money.

Dear "Haters" or "Ye of little love and faith in humankind". Calm yourselves. Little did you know that Kara has a bazillion people, all over the world, that love and want her to succeed on her journey. WE asked her to put up that button, so it would make it easier for our lazy asses to help out. This, believe it or not, has nothing to do with you. This is not about you. It's about her, and it's about us. Stop being judgmental. It's called helping out your friends, and I hope that someone, someday will show you the same love and support, so you know how amazing it is.

Anonymous said...

Hi! I live in Nunavut and am avid reader of your blog! And I am one of those people who encouraged and insisted on a donation link!

And it's true. People don't have to donate. But I happily did. :)

Keep up everything you are doing, Kara!

- In Iqaluit

dogsled_stacie said...

Oh screw 'em! It's your blog, your life, you are allowed to do what you want. Unless you are handcuffing them all and dragging them to your computer and FORCING them to donate! Wait, you're doing that aren't you?? That's why you're playing squash, to be quick n' strong! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sarah said...

The cranks in Faro will gossip and nay-say about you, but if it's not you it's something else. Consider yourself a martyr for taking the heat off some other poor, well-meaning soul for a while! And know that their opinions say more about them than they do about you.

Erica said...

Well, you know what I had to say about that - I won't print it here because nobody knows I know words like that.

Shelagh said...

This is my take on it... I have used your blog to help both my employees and friends struggling with similar issues with body image; some have gone through the same procedure and some have been considering it. The information that you have shared would have only been available within a book before the internet... a book that I would have bought without a second thought and would be dog-eared by the number of people that have shared this experience with you. I am disappointed that those in your direct environment can undervalue the information found within your documentation of your experience. I appreciate the good, the bad and the smattering of humor, well a bit more than a smattering. I read your life in the same manner I would read a good book, one chapter at a time.

My donation is purely selfish. As you continue your adventure, I am using your story to help those around me who need support and information. My small contribution is simply providing funding for my first hand researcher. Keep up the good work Kara! I am pleased for the opportunity to support a self-published author on her autobiography as it happens!

Gen said...

This is either about jealousy of your entrepreneurial skills, your frankness, your personal success, your beautiful family, your generous nature, your cleverness, and your audacity...or it's cabin fever.

Way Way Up said...

Wow, those people must be pretty bored if they have to bitch about something like this! Heck, if they're that bored, send them here and they can shovel all the freaking snow we have. I'll even be so kind as to let them finish their morning coffee first. :0

Anonymous said...

It makes me ill to think that people take time outta their day to be so disrespectful to someone who is simply doing something to better ones self. To all you Haters...How dare you! To make someone feel less of a person, or for doing something for another person. I take this not only as an insult to Kara, but to myself as well, as I was one of the people who had suggested to her to do the Donation Button. For all that she does for the community, her kids, her husband. She deserves every ounce of kindness given back to her. Whether it be in donation or by kind words. Karma is a Bitch, what goes around comes around to those who deserve what they give. You give negativity, you will get it right back. And in Kara's case she is getting it right back too, only with kindness, cause that is all she gives to other. Grow up, and find something better to do with your time.

Anonymous said...

Some people may find this hard to believe, but:
There are people in the world who are genuinely kind, generous people, who give for the sake of it, with no expectation of receiving anything in return.
There are people in the world who offer their support, understanding and encouragement, unconditionally, in the hopes that it leads to the betterment of someone else.
There are even people in the world willing to go out of their way to help someone else, even when it means that they are giving something up for themselves, or in some way inconveniencing themselves.
I know that these people exist, because I have been married to one for the last nearly 10 years. So to those people who question Kara's donate button, a few things to keep in mind before you make your judgement:
You were not asked for anything, the button is there at the request of many of our friends who live such far distances away, that they chose to express their support monetarily.
Kara is a selfless person who does a varied number of things to help the people around her, without expectation of anything in return.
Since I have known Kara, all of the people we have met that we call friends are the same kind of selfless people, who only want to do what they can to help with the betterment of the people around them.
In conclusion, if you do not want to contribute, do not use the donate button. But I will ask you one thing. Please find a cause that you believe is worth your time, attention, and resources, and do what you can to help further that cause. Hopefully, some day, when you need to garner support for your cause, whatever it may be, you will be able to find people like I have described above.
Matthew Went, Proud husband and supporter Kara.

Lana said...

leave the button up Kara. If anything the negative comments have encourged me to donate ... something I had been thinking about doing, but hadn't gotten around to. I am going to do that now.

You are a wonderful person and I miss living near you.

Lana said...


Anonymous said...

Matt and Kara help many people all the time with no thought of return.
They have helped us many times.We
just returned from 2 months away due to illness and Matt had shovelled our driveway of a huge amount of snow.
I dont think it is anyones business what you do in your blog
re this. Karma will sort things out. A Faro Cancer patient

Anonymous said...

I love Matt's comment!

- In Iqaluit